Thursday, January 17, 2008

放下


“选择放下,就能活在当下。” - 人生可以是一场战争,同时也是一趟让自己成长的旅程。因此,面对困难及挫折时,除了认真面对和逃避外,还有另一个选择:接受它,放下它,并超越它。

生命里的胜败得失,教人们一味地执意追求,执意强求。然而,一味痴迷偏执,无形中给原该轻松坦然的心境,加上了重重的忧愁色彩,带来了无穷无尽的烦恼和压力,令自己挣扎于自己设下的局限间,陷入无底的幽谷里。

也许,在很多时候,人是个自寻烦恼的高手,没事总爱烦着自己,任由自己在无限的思维空间里,自己和自己过不去,想不开放不下的,一直不断地折磨着自己。令人不禁地质疑,究竟人是因为想流泪而悲伤,还是因为悲伤而流泪呢?其实,真正压垮我们的,令我们彻底崩溃的,不是创伤或挫败,而是来自我们心底处,无形中创造的莫名压力。

人,往往总爱以他人的眼光来衡量自己的生命,伪装着自己的情感,放不下该放下的。人,原就该忠于自己的真正情感,想哭就哭,想笑就笑的,不是吗?生活未必过得多姿多彩,却得过得踏踏实实,忠于自己,忠于他人。

所以,当自己跌入生命的幽谷时,试着不挣扎,不怨天尤人,试着选择全然地拥抱幽谷的一切,接受它,放下它,并超越它。试着睁开心灵的眼睛,放下一切偏执的思想,珍惜生命里的美丽。这时,会发现原来出口,就在放下当中。

右脚放下,左脚才能前进,能够放下多少,幸福就有多少。

P/S:大宝石,我重复温习了某日你给我发的一则小短讯,令我感触良久。生命里难免会有种种烦恼,种种困惑,种种压力,如果能够懂得放下,是何等自在呀~ 谢谢你的分享,共勉之。。。 ^0^

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

hi,

just want to give you my humble opinion, that if we consider life as a war then it always seems we face many wars in our life

in the other hand, if we consider life as a beautiful moment everytime we breathe then we face everything in our life (especially the harsh times) with the beauty inside us (patient, love), and if we do this it will effect others to do the same thing. i think love is contagious.

why we worry and feel pressure? actually, we shouldn't be. we worry and feel pressure because our expectation on something like ambition, goal for career, money where at the end all of these things are not valuable 'cause when we die we don't bring them along with us, but it is our relation with others and what we did in this life that are precious and will be judged at the end.

somehow bad things happened because there is some purpose why it is happened, based on my experience if you got some bad things happened in your life usually there will be a good things at the end as the continuity, i think God always has a good plan for all of us (in many ways and mysterious even it has to go through a bad thing first), so don't waste your life with worry, life is short

i believe God has good plans for all of us, and the plans are always the best ones for us compare to our own plans in this life. but we, as human, somehow still cannot see it. and it is our own plans (expectation, ambition) that make our life miserable because so called worry, pressure and any other negative feelings inside us. face everything with love, 'cause from love comes patient, forgiveness, understanding and at the end is happiness

i hope my opinion could give you at least another way of perception on these matters

by the way, my name is Yorke, i just accidentally find your blog and kind of surprise that a litle girl like you can think so deep as one written in your blog.

goodbye

Anonymous said...

哇! 小石子升格为大宝石咯~~~ 呵呵~